No man is an Island. Wise words indeed, but equally true about the fairer sex, coping on your own with anything, big or small is made all the more tough by doing it single handed. So why is it that so many couples split these days and then try and make sense of their lives afterwards?. Surely it would be simpler to work through issues before they became major issues?.
If only life were that simple.
The pace of life dictates how much time you actually get to sit down and chat with your spouse/partner and the facts are that life's pace at its present level for many is unsustainable, so despite all their best intentions couples will split simply because they do not get the quality of time together that sustains a relationship.
Many years ago the two day weekend was a fact. No-one worked on Saturdays except emergency services and shift workers of which there were few, but at the present moment in time Saturday's are carte blanche with the odd Sunday or two thrown in for good measure.
This scenario leads to overwork, tiredness, pressure and even guilt for not being with your off-spring etc. In turn the partner at home can feel isolated and alone and also have such thoughts as "they love work more than me", it is human nature and it is contributing to many rocky patches and break-ups quite simply because no-one gets time to actually talk.
As a society, we are all guilty of wanting 24 hour access to all amenities, we want petrol/diesel, groceries,clothes,tires,cars etc etc so in turn shops employ at the weekend, traditionally the sacrosanct family time, but it's now been eaten away by our 24 hour need for items and the more we employ the less family time we get, the more pressure we get on relationships and family units, its a vicious circle.
Do I have the answer?.. absolutely not, as I too have to work very hard to make ends meet and as such I find myself sat alone writing to everyone about this subject in an empty house on Easter Sunday, a victim of the very needs i have just spoken of, having not seen my off-spring for days the very afternoon I am free they are with the in-laws because they issued a decree for lunch that is rarely ignored. Can I blame her? no not really, all we see of one another is hello-goodbye, so she is hardly going to sit and wait at home for me to return as and when. So, as you see, I have no answer to the stresses on family life that the burden of 24 hour work brings upon us, but one thing I am sure about and that is that as long as we keep increasing the work load on those that will actually work hard for a living the more marriage problems will occur and no matter what politicians preach, those facts won't change, we are caught in a hamster's wheel of misfortune. I am now going to make myself a cup of coffee, grab some toast for lunch and try and take things easy for at least an afternoon as tomorrow (you guessed it) it may be a bank holiday but i have to work and so the cycle continues.... if i make it to old age perhaps i may write a book about it.
If only life were that simple.
The pace of life dictates how much time you actually get to sit down and chat with your spouse/partner and the facts are that life's pace at its present level for many is unsustainable, so despite all their best intentions couples will split simply because they do not get the quality of time together that sustains a relationship.
Many years ago the two day weekend was a fact. No-one worked on Saturdays except emergency services and shift workers of which there were few, but at the present moment in time Saturday's are carte blanche with the odd Sunday or two thrown in for good measure.
This scenario leads to overwork, tiredness, pressure and even guilt for not being with your off-spring etc. In turn the partner at home can feel isolated and alone and also have such thoughts as "they love work more than me", it is human nature and it is contributing to many rocky patches and break-ups quite simply because no-one gets time to actually talk.
As a society, we are all guilty of wanting 24 hour access to all amenities, we want petrol/diesel, groceries,clothes,tires,cars etc etc so in turn shops employ at the weekend, traditionally the sacrosanct family time, but it's now been eaten away by our 24 hour need for items and the more we employ the less family time we get, the more pressure we get on relationships and family units, its a vicious circle.
Do I have the answer?.. absolutely not, as I too have to work very hard to make ends meet and as such I find myself sat alone writing to everyone about this subject in an empty house on Easter Sunday, a victim of the very needs i have just spoken of, having not seen my off-spring for days the very afternoon I am free they are with the in-laws because they issued a decree for lunch that is rarely ignored. Can I blame her? no not really, all we see of one another is hello-goodbye, so she is hardly going to sit and wait at home for me to return as and when. So, as you see, I have no answer to the stresses on family life that the burden of 24 hour work brings upon us, but one thing I am sure about and that is that as long as we keep increasing the work load on those that will actually work hard for a living the more marriage problems will occur and no matter what politicians preach, those facts won't change, we are caught in a hamster's wheel of misfortune. I am now going to make myself a cup of coffee, grab some toast for lunch and try and take things easy for at least an afternoon as tomorrow (you guessed it) it may be a bank holiday but i have to work and so the cycle continues.... if i make it to old age perhaps i may write a book about it.
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